I was first introduced to the song “When I was Your Man” by Bruno Mars years ago, on a cold, winter night and have held on to it ever since. It is a song that makes poetry out of heartbreak and fabricates a world where tragedy is almost tangible.
When I was Your Man speaks of deep remorse, of pain, and of longing and loss. It is a reminder of mistakes made in the throes of youth that continue to haunt you well into adulthood.
So, when Bruno sings, ‘My pride, my ego, my needs, and my selfish ways
Caused a good strong woman like you to walk out my life’, you can almost taste his searing pain of having loved and lost.
But, the song is also an apology, although one that arrives years too late. He longs for a second chance – to do things differently and to love her way she deserved. But, he knows that the ship has sailed and that no amount of agonizing over the could-haves and would-haves would change the current reality – one where she belongs to another man.
‘When I was Your Man’ is an embodiment of quiet acceptance and an apt depiction of a man powerless in matters of the heart. It speaks about loving someone selflessly, long after the relationship fire has been doused out, especially then.
It is, in essence, a didactic rendition of loving purely and unconditionally without taking the seemingly, inconsequential things for granted. Because more often that not, second chances are hard to come by.